Wednesday, 8 March 2017

I Still Notice

A letter to my husband, 
            There was a time when our world consisted of a series of lazy mornings in bed, late-night chats about where we would go and who we would be. My life was about you and yours was about me. But two babies later and although you still mean the world to me, they burst into our little bubble in a tornado of toys, sticky hands, night feeds, baby wipes, giggles, nappies, tiny toes and noise. A whole lot of noise. And while you are still my whole world, so are these little munchkins, and they are a whole lot louder than the pair of us. And so these days it can feel like we are passing ships in the night, when our daytime communication consists of ‘need milk’ or ‘will you be late?’ But I want you to know that I still I notice the little things you do to let me know I’m still loved. Like fetching me a glass of water every night without fail. Doing far more than your share of the night time calls. Charging my phone when the battery is getting low and putting my keys where I will see them so I’m not rushing around in the morning. These things are only little but they speak loader than words. You might think I don’t see them but I do. I want you to know that I still notice, I’ll always notice. You’re not lost in the chaotic, wonderful yet exhausting sea of parenthood, I’m right there with you. 
And I still notice x

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  1. Aw, that's sweet. I can tell you it will get better too.. my boys are now 9, 10 & 12 and we are finally back to spending more time just my hubby and I. The boys are often busy with their own activities and it's nice to not always have other little people I have to always put ahead of my own or my husbands needs.

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    1. Aww I'm looking forward to that, not to wish the time away mind. Meals out and lie ins again would be great! xx

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  2. I need to do something like this for my husband. Sigh. GREAT post. #MMBC

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  3. aww that is lovely. It is so hard when you have children bit the fact that you do still notice is all that matters. These days pass all too quickly x #MaternityMondays

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  4. That's so sweet! Munchkins are pretty darn noisy and time consuming, but they're so worth it. <3 #MMBC

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  5. That's really sweet and such a nice reminder for us all to appreciate the little things in a world that has become chaotic and yes, noisy! So much noise indeed! #DreamTeam

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  6. Aww, this is such a lovely post. It really is the little things that make all the difference x
    #Bigpinklink

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  7. Aaah, that's really touching! It's really hard to adjust when your relationship changes so dramatically when children come into the mix, isn't it? But your husband must really appreciate you acknowledging that you still notice the little things he does! I remember feeling like I was missing my husband, like he'd left, when we had our first baby, and it used to make me really sad. But things are so much better now, and it's easier to spend more time together!
    #bigpinklink

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    1. I'm so glad things are easier for you now. I think the lack of time contributes to it in the early days xx

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  8. We should all take a moment to do just what you did: appreciate our husbands not JUST in our minds! It's so very easy to let motherhood consume our every thought, but when our children are grown and on their own, it's our husbands who will be there with us. Best to nurture that relationship all along the way in order to have the best relationship possible when our parenting responsibilities are behind us!
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  9. This is so so beautiful - so important to take a moment to be thankful - just gorgeous xx #CoolMumClub

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  10. Ah what a lovely post - it's so nice to hear such a warm and supporting post rather than some man bashing! Thanks so much for linking up to #coolmumclub lovely xx

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  11. This is such a sweet letter to your husband! With the stresses of parenting things often get forgotten. #sharingthebloglove

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  12. Awww this made me cry! So so sweet. Happiness is made of lots of little things. We have to see the little things as well as the big things...I could write the exact same to my husband. Thank you for sharing #thatfridaylinky

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  13. Back from #TwinklyTuesday with new appreciation fot my OH! :)

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  14. This is so lovely - it is sometimes so easy to take your other half for granted but to stop and just let him know that you are not is so important. I really enjoyed reading this x #MaternityMondays

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  15. What a lovely post this is. It so easy to carry on regardless and assume that the other half knows we notice, but actually telling them is so mucg better.

    Thank you for linking up with the #MMBC

    xx

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  16. Aw that's lovely, such a beautiful post #MaternityMondays

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  17. It's all about the little things when kids come along. My husband always makes me a cuppa first thing in the morning, puts petrol in my car etc! Thanks for linking up to #ThatFridayLinky

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  18. Life does change so much when you have children and finding time for each other is difficult super post Thanks for linking to the #THAT FRIDAY LINKY come back next week please

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    1. It sure does. Will be back next week :) x

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  19. Ahh this is just lovely and I totally relate to it! Thanks for linking up with #TwinklyTuesday

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  20. So true and it's the little things that mean so much. Lovely post #sundaybest

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    1. Thank you, it's definitely the little things xxx

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  21. Awww, that is so sweet. A great partner is a total game changer.
    #sundaybest

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  22. I can't wait for us to do that! Baba is still small! one day it will happen! #SundayBest

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    1. It is always a blur at first but things will get back to normal soon xx

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  23. Ahhhh *swoon. What a lovely letter to your hubby. He sounds the best, and a great support when it comes to the littles. Thank you for sharing with the #Dreamteam xx

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  24. loved this - some days it can seem like the hubs and I hardly have any time for each other and it's important to take stock and think of each other amidst the chaos of kids. You're right that it's the little things that become important and during these years x #coolmumclub

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    1. It can be so chaotic at first but things become easier in time xxx

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  25. Aw what a lovely post to write for your husband. There are days where I feel as if I don't have enough time for him because we are both wrapped up in the whirlwind of parenting or just life. It's so important to not forget those little things though! #SundaysBest

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  26. This is so lovely and I can completely relate to it. I feel exactly the same - passing ships in the night. It is about the little things that let each other know that you still care and think about the other person. I feel totally inspired to write my Mr a letter too now :-) Lovely post, thanks for sharing it on #MarvMondays. Emily

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    1. Aww, there will be a time when all this becomes easier so it's just about riding it out xxx

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  27. What a lovely letter! I'm sure every parent of little children can relate to it. It's like parenthood just flips you entire relationship on it's head and you wonder if you're even still the same people. But it's those little things that really show your partner how much you love them and how much you think about them all the time. Thanks so much for joining us at #SharingtheBlogLove

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    1. That's so true, you feel like different people than when you first met xxx

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  28. It's wonderful to be appreciated. This is such a lovely note. #coolmumclub

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  29. Ahh what a cute post and so in love! Thanks for linking up to the #bestandworst hope you'll stop by again.

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  30. This is a beautiful letter and I am sure your husband appreciated you writing it. Relationships look so different after children and you appreciate different things from your partner. Those little things that make your life easier suddenly seem so much bigger. I think we could all do with making sure our partners know we appreciate it and them. Thank you for joining us at #SharingtheBlogLove x

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  31. This is so lovely! It really is the little things like that which make all of the difference and it is so lovely that you are not so involved with the business of motherhood that you don't notice. It is so easy to loose each other in this craziness X
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  32. So sweet, it is lovely to make sure we notice these things within the whirlwind of parenting little people isn't it? x #sharingthebloglove

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    1. Definitely, I have to make sure I try and take stock of what's important sometimes xx

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  33. What a gorgeous letter - I'm pretty sure that my husband doesn't realise that I still notice things he does - I think I'm going to have to tell him when he gets in tonight! #sharingthebloglove

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    1. Thank you, aww that's so lovely, I'm sure he will appreciate that x

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  34. This is really sweet and reminds me of how much our lives have changed since the little ones arrived. Well written to! #sharingthebloglove

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  35. That's so lovely. It's the little things that help keep things fresh. I'll definitely try and do some more :)

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  36. Oh I love this. It's exactly how I feel about my husband post-baby. I think its often hard to adjust to how your relationship changes after children, we're 18 months in and we're still figuring out the new us. #sharingthebloglove

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    1. Aww it certainly does change things but it does get easier with time xxx

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  37. Ah this is lovely. I feel the same about my husband and sometimes think I take him for granted. It's good to take a step back every now and again and realise how amazing they are. #SharingtheBlogLove

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    1. Its so easy to get swept away in the day to day tasks isn't it. I'm sure he knows :) x

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  38. This made me shed a tear... lovely #sharingthebloglove

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  39. This is so lovely, you have a keeper there! #SharingtheBlogLove

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    1. Thank you. He will be chuffed to read that! x

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  40. Oh how lovely! I wish mine did little things like this. Thank you for linking up to #SundayBest x

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  41. Awww it's lovely that you've written your feelings out for him and let others have a nosy too. #sharingthebloglove

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  42. Ah this is lovely! Gorgeous post. He sounds like a keeper! :) #sharingthebloglove

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