Friday, 3 February 2017

It's OK...

Since becoming a mum nearly four years ago I have probably spent every day since giving myself a hard time or feeling guilty about something. I’m so tired of feeling this way. There is so much pressure in the media to be the perfect parent. The internet is saturated with articles encouraging us to breastfeed, to limit screen time, to feed our babies home-cooked organic food, to learn how to really play with them and to regain our pre-baby bodies. It’s exhausting. It has been one of the most overwhelming and surprising parts of motherhood for me. But I’m on a mission to make us feel better about ourselves, to lighten the mood and to let you know you’re all doing OK. I’ve decided to call this the #itsok challenge and every month I will list a few different points beginning with 'It's Ok...' and invite you to do the same. I will run this here on Rice Cakes and Raisins, on my Facebook page and via Twitter. It would be great if you would like to join in too. Let’s see if we can make a little difference and spread a bit of positivity! 

I would love to read your posts so please do tweet me @RiceCakeRaisin using the hashtag #itsok and I will be sure to read your post and retweet you. 

You may wish to comment below instead or to join the discussion on Facebook or Twitter and if so I would love to read them!

If you’d like to join in please feel free to add my badge to your post or sidebar. 

If you would like to nominate anyone else then that’s great and if you are nominated yourself, be sure to link back to their page in your post. 

Right, I’ll Start… 

It’s OK to use baby’s naptime to sit down and do bugger all! Forget about the chores and watch a bit of daytime TV, eat chocolate or be horizontal! 
It’s OK to use a food pouch! You’re not feeding them a dog poo pouch. You’re fine! 
It’s OK to find parenting a bit of a yawn-fest at times


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30 comments:

  1. What a great idea, here are a few of mine :)

    #ItsOk to fall asleep to the heartbeat sounds of Ewan the Dream Sheep before the baby does
    #ItsOk to wear a muslin cloth as a scarf if you forget to wear one and it's freezing outside
    #ItsOk to not always to have a pristine home

    #BigPinkLink

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    1. These are so great!! Thank you for adding them! xx

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  2. I love this idea so so much! I wrote a post recently (https://mummymamamum.com/2017/02/04/super-mum-i-am-not/) that is kind oof on these lines, and I will definitely be scribbling down some #itsok notes and tweet you with them! What a great idea! x
    #bigpinklink

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    1. What a great post! Thank you so much for sharing!!

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  3. What a brilliant idea.... It's ok to write about how you really feel (: #dreamteam

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    1. We should definitely be more honest about how we feel xx

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  5. I love the idea of the series! We all need to know it's ok, and that we're doing a great job, every once in a while. Here's a post I wrote on 'Momguilt' a couple of months ago, along the same lines. We need to let go of all that unnecessary guilt!!!

    http://talesfrommamaville.com/2016/07/13/with-strings-attached-momguilt/

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    1. What a great post about momguilt! We definitely need to go easy on ourselves x

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  6. Great post!
    It's ok to go out once in a while without the children, even when they protest!
    It's ok to spend more time on my moblie phone than my teenage daughter (blogger life)

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  7. This is such a fab idea!! I was the same as you-I spent the first year of my son's life terrified of him being near any type of screen (because apparently it'd cause ADHD,) killing myself to make sure everything he ate was organic and home made, and worried that I wasn't stimulating him enough (ie, I made myself available to his every whim, which has definitely not worked in my favour!! Taking a 'sod this s**t' attitude, has definitely made me feel better!!
    #itsok to wake up and wish you were going to a spa for a few days, instead of looking after your children.
    #itsok to drink gin and tonic at dinner time-and the children think you're just drinking water.
    #itsok to mutter FFS under your breath more than 50 times in one day...!
    Thanks for linking to #bigpinklink! X

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    1. I love these!!! I'm so glad i'm not the only one that does these!!!

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  8. I love this idea! My children are older but I've that it's okay to spend time pursuing things you love - it is a good example for them! Your neighbor on #sharingthebloglove

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  9. What a lovely idea! I think the media has a lot to answer for and I think that's the appeal of parenting blogs - the honesty! I'm going for #itsok to think 'roll on naptime', #itsok that your children have had fish fingers 2 days running - it's the only thing they like anyway! #itsok to be honest about how you really feel about being a mum. Thanks for joining us at #SharingtheBlogLove

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  10. I love this.
    #Itsok to lose your shit sometimes
    #Itsok to have had enough by (insert time)
    #Itsok to want time out for yourself

    Thanks for linking this up to #coolmumclub lovely xoxo

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  11. I love this, i really needed to hear this today. #itsok to just want five minutes peace #itsok to need some space! #sharingthebloglove

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    1. Definitely!! My two never give me any space to I find i'm craving alone time by the end of the day xx

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  12. Yup, yup and yup! I never did anything when my girls napped! I needed that time to chill! Thanks for linking up to #ThatFridayLinky

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  13. this is so great!

    It's ok to remove all of the clocks from the bedrooms and tell your kids it is 8 pm when it is really 6:45!

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  14. Super post and yes it's ok to do nothing loved this post Thanks for linking to the #THAT FRIDAY LINKY come back next week please

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  15. What a lovely idea! I'm going with #its ok to be thinking come on bedtime, I have enough for today. #its ok to let them watch another episode of peter rabbit, what harm will come from it #itsok for them to have an after school treat, they are tired and worked hard for it Thank you for joining us at #SharingtheBlogLove

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  16. Great idea!! And I agree with all of yours. Thanks for joining us at #SundayBest - hope you'll join us again tomorrow x

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  17. Oh this is a great idea and yes it's totally a yawn fest at times! Thank you for sharing with #SundayBest x

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